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Wednesday, January 31, 2007

Do you have a hard time concentrating?

What are the most common types of distractions?
1. Internal or psychological distractions.
These are distractions that come from within you and only you have the power to harness them. These are daydreams, personal concerns, anxiety, indecision and unrealistic goals.
External or physical distractions.
These are anything that stimulates your senses and interrupts your concentration such as sights, sounds, environmental factors, etc.

What are some ways to minimize eternal distractions?
Turn off TV, radios, computers, or anything that distracts your concentration
o Choose a room with great lighting, if you are studying
o Move things from your view which are distractions such as windows, rooms with people/activity

What are some ways to minimize internal distractions?
Keep tract of your lapses of concentration, somewhat like a scorecard. Look at the time of the day and see if you have better concentration at certain times of the day.
o Secondly, try creating a worry pad and decide you will deal with these after studying, doing a project, etc.

Any other ideas for enhancing concentration?
Vary activities (to use both sides of your brain)
o Get physical exercise
o Get enough sleep (which can effect concentration)
o Take breaks after about 20-30 minutes of concentration
o Set realistic goals
o Have a positive attitude.

Attractiveness: Does it affect your future

Does how you look effect your earnings or how you are treated? Recent statistics that might suggest that our attractiveness actually may play a huge part in our future earnings and success.

What do studies show ?
o Economics Professors Hammermesh and Biddle discovered plain looking people earn 5-10% less than people of average looks.
o Average looking people earn 3-8% less than those who are deemed attractive.
o Male attorneys attained early partnership directly correlated to how handsome they are perceived.

Does height have anything to do with financial success?
o Research from the University of Florida survey shows that tall people earn more $$ through their careers than shorter people.
o Each inch taller is worth $789 a year in pay
o Difference between 5' 5 in person and 6' person is $5.523 a year

What else have we learned from recent surveys?
o Good looking men and women are generally judged to be more kind, honest and intelligent
o A London study showed that overweight women are more likely to be unemployed
o Overweight women earn 5% less than their trimmer peers

But some of the most successful people are short. So what can people like me to do even that score?
o Research shows we can even the score by:
o Giving the appearance of confidence
o Be passionate about what you do.
o Be honest
o Maintain good eye contact
o Dress well
o Act upbeat
o Treat others with warmth and respect and you will see a huge difference

Tuesday, January 30, 2007

What Makes A Healthy Relationship?

It's almost Valentine's Day, and the time to celebrate love. But love isn't the only thing that makes up a happy and enduring relationship. Statistics show that almost 1/2 of all marriages end in divorce. This staggering statistic illustrates that the art of finding and maintaining healthy relationships might be an elusive commodity.

What is the most commonly forgotten element of a healthy relationship? Surpassingly, the answer is quite simple. You must learn to love yourself before you can love someone else. Anytime you are not connected with yourself, or find yourself “lost” in a relationship, you can be assured of unhappiness.

People say that healthy relationships have boundaries, what does that mean? Healthy relationships have elements of separateness and individuality. Partners know where they start and their partner begins. Healthy partners realize that they are free to disagree, have different opinions, and create relationship which are free from smothering, invasive behaviors, controlling, and power struggles.

Wondering if your relationship falls into the “healthy” category? Here are some of the key elements of a healthy relationship.
o Relationship that encourages individuality. Healthy relationships encourage partners to have their own interests, friends, and can have time of separation without fear of abandonment
o A relationship that invites growth. Healthy relationships are ever changing and bring new ideas, concepts, friendships, sharing new interests, and learning. If the growth stops, the relationship will become stagnant, boring, and distant.
o A relationship that nurtures open and honest communication. A healthy relationship is built on communication and building a deeper understanding of each other throughout a lifetime.
o A relationship in which it is safe to express feelings of all types in an appropriate manner. Healthy relationships allow space to discuss your fears, your hurt, your grief, anger, and disappointment in a non-threatening way.
o A relationship that builds self-esteem. Healthy relationships make us feel good about ourselves, and are not a place to tear down the other person.
o A relationship built on commitment to resolution. Healthy relationships find ways to negotiate, compromise, and handle conflicts and adversity.
o A relationship that encourages trust and respect. Without these key elements an enduring relationship won't make it to many more Valentine's Days.