Are you inner voices constantly chattering?
Do
you feel like your accomplishments are never quite “good enough?” Do you put off projects or assignments
because you fear they are not “perfect”?
Do you believe that you must give 110% to each and every project for
fear that you will be seen as a failure?
If any of these hold true, you may be a person who is classified as a perfectionist.
Perfectionists
create self-defeating thoughts and behaviors aimed at achieving unrealistic and
excessively high goals. Ultimately this
pattern creates poor self-esteem and a feeling of failure because the
individual believes they are incapable of achieving anything “worthy” or
“enough.”
Perfectionism robs us of personal
satisfaction and feeling positive about our accomplishments and our future
success. Many perfectionists feel
intense anxiety about finishing projects due to the fear of people’s criticism,
fear of their disapproval, and thoughts of disappointing people who we view as
important.
What can you do if you
discover you are a perfectionist?
1. Set realistic expectations in a reasonable
time frame
2. Set small goals to assure success
3. Focus on the process not the end point
(the journey not the destination!)
4. Focus on successes and acknowledge the
positive actions you take
5. Confront the fear…but allow
yourself to be human and make mistakes.
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